We know from experience that the 12 Step model works because millions of people have recovered through them. Started in 1934, it is accepted world wide and treats all forms of addition e.g. alcohol, drugs, overeating, etc. You can go to a 12 step meeting and hear other people’s stories and decide if there are any similarities between their stories and yours. You can overcome some of your denial about addiction. You see that addiction can affect anybody. Good people with good jobs, good families, and a sense of humor can have an addiction. You may know that intellectually but you need to believe it. Everybody likes to think that they’re special. But addiction is one of those times when it’s comforting to know that you’re not alone!
Finding a Sponsor
A sponsor is someone who you would like as a teacher to guide you through recovery and the 12 steps. They don’t necessarily have to be someone who you would like to hang out with as a friend. By choosing a sponsor you’re also implicitly saying that you like the form of their recovery and their serenity. In 12 step groups it’s said that “you like what your sponsor has.” In this case, “has” refers to what they have in recovery, not what they have materially.
THE TWELVE STEPS
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.